In a time where lots of people are announcing staff reductions left and right, it's a good time to talk about the most important aspects of dealing with the human element of reductions — Ego and Safety.

When I was a younger manager just learning how this all worked, I didn't understand the value of Ego and Safety. My "fires" turned into heated outbursts, crying, and grandstanding. I couldn't figure out what was going on and assumed these blowups were tied to the people I was letting go.

They weren't — it was entirely my fault. Even though I tried to be kind, I didn't appreciate that letting people go isn't about the transaction — it's about the person. How we manage that relationship is the transaction, and it always maps back to how we vie...